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Is this the person for me?

a few minutes to do the following test:

What qualities do you think should be the person you marry? • mark the four characteristics that seem most important.

When you were younger, did you ever fall in love madly in love with someone? × mark the quality that attracted you to that person.
ANY of these qualities is nothing bad. But if you were very young when I fell in love, is it true that you called attention to surface qualities, such as the left column?
Over time, going matures, you start dwelling on qualities such as the right hand column. Perhaps you realize that the most attractive girl in your neighborhood is not very reliable, or that the most popular kid in class is not very decent. And if you have passed the stage that the Bible calls the prime of life, most likely you already do not look both at the superficial aspects to determine whether a particular person is right for you.

Did you know well?

there anything I should do before thinking about starting a relationship with someone, know yourself well. So ask yourself the following questions:

What are my strengths ?_______________

And my ?_________________

weaknesses What do I need emotionally? What do I need to improve my relationship with God ?____________________

is really not easy to know oneself, but these questions can be a starting point. The better you know, the more prepared you to find someone to promote your strengths instead of your flaws. And if you think you've found the ideal person?

Does it matter who?

"I'd like to meet better. "Depending on who you ask this proposal, you might think:" Swallow me earth "or, conversely, we say:" I have to be dreaming. " Well, suppose you accept. How will you know if this person is right for you?
Imagine you're looking for some shoes. You go to a shoe store and then find the model you like. The evidence you y. .. What a disappointment! Do not come and no larger ones. You would not you buy them? It would be logical to look for other, it does not make sense to take some shoes are not your number.
In a way, something similar happens when you decide whom to marry. Perhaps with the passage of time you enjoyed a number of people, but none proved to be adequate. So keep looking for someone with whom you feel comfortable, someone who fits perfectly with your personality and your goals (Genesis 2:18, Matthew 19:4-6). If you think you've found someone, how will you know if the person really is for you?

Going beyond the obvious

For starters, do not rush and try to get to know your friend, or your friend. Try to be objective, but may only see what you see. Of course, this will take some work, like any major life decision. Say, for example, you're thinking about buying a car. How much time devoted to study the different models on the market? Would you look just the design? Or do you informed about what is not seen with the naked eye, the characteristics of the motor? Find
couple is far more important than buying a car. However, many young people are set only on the superficial aspects of the person stand out and then things have in common: "We like the same music," We encanta hacer las mismas cosas”, “¡Estamos de acuerdo en todo!”. Pero como dijimos antes, si de verdad has pasado la flor de la juventud, seguro que ya no te fijas tanto en las características superficiales, sino en “la persona secreta del corazón” (1 Pedro 3:4; Efesios 3:16).
En vez de destacar los puntos que los dos tienen en común, sería mejor ver qué sucede cuando surgen diferencias de opinión. Piensa en estas preguntas: ¿Cómo reacciona tu amigo o tu amiga cuando surgen desacuerdos? ¿Quiere salirse siempre con la suya? ¿Tiene ataques de ira? ¿Te insulta? (Gálatas 5:19, 20; Colosenses 3:8.) Or, conversely, is reasonable and willing to compromise when it comes to a matter of taste which does not come into play any biblical principle? (James 3:17.)
Some questions: Is a person jealous, possessive or manipulative? Want to know what you do at all times? "I know couples who are fighting because one of them was quite upset that the other does not call back all the time," says Nicole. I do not think that's a good sign. "(1 Corinthians 13:4.)
far we have talked about issues related to personality and behavior. Another important aspect you should not overlook is the reputation. What do others think of the person you're dating? Do they speak well of her? Maybe you could ask those who know that person for some time, as is the case of mature brothers in his congregation (Acts 16:1, 2).

Once analyzed these three aspects, why not evaluate your friend? Personality

Conduct _____________________ _______________________ _____________________
Reputation

"Should we break up?"

Sometimes this is the best option. Look what happened to Julia. She says: "At first I liked that my boyfriend always wanted to know where he was, what I did and who they were. But there came a time when it bothered to be with anyone but him. Until he was jealous of my family, especially my father. When I broke him, I removed a great weight lifted. "
Sara had a similar experience. He began to see that her boyfriend, John, was sarcastic, demanding and rude. "One day he came home three hours late. When my mother opened the door, even health; just told me: 'Come on, we arrived late. " Not that it was I who was late! At a minimum, should have apologized over and give me an explanation. But what hurt me most was how he treated my mother. "You know what Sara did? Ended their relationship, and he did just for that incident. After all, that your partner does or says something unkind once does not mean that the relationship is doomed to failure (Psalm 130:3). Sara broke up with her boyfriend because he realized that he always was.
What will you do if you also realize that the person salt with which you do not really agree? Please do not close your eyes to reality. Although I loath to admit it, perhaps you would end the relationship. Proverbs 22:3 says: "Shrewd is the one who has seen the calamity and proceeds to hide." In short, if your partner shows any signs of danger appear on pages 39 and 40, should end the relationship, at least until you correct the problem. We know that this is not easy. However, remember that marriage is a permanent bond, so it is better to suffer a little now to regret the rest of your life.

"How I tell you? "

How will you end the relationship? First choose the appropriate time and place. Think about how you would like to tell you so (Matthew 7:12). Would you say it in front of everyone? Of course not. And unless circumstances require, not a good idea to end a relationship with a text message, email or by voicemail. So look for the right time and right place to discuss this serious matter.
Well, it was time ... What will you tell your partner? The apostle Paul advised Christians I always tell the truth (Ephesians 4:25). So the best things that is clear, albeit with touch. Tell clearly why you think the relationship will not work. No need to recite a long list of defects that put you to criticize. Instead of focusing on what does or does not do, explain how you feel. You could say something like, "I need someone to ..." or "I think we should break because ...".
You have good reasons to break, so be firm and not let yourself be persuaded. Be careful, your partner may try to manipulate you to subtly change your mind. "When I broke up with my boyfriend," says a young woman named Lolita, "looked very depressed. I believe his intention was to make me feel bad. And he did, but did not let his reaction made me change my mind. "Pretend Loli: she knew what she wanted and stood firm in his decision. When you say no, you do not (James 5:12).

After breaking

Do not be surprised if after the break you feel depressed. Maybe you passed as the psalmist who said, "I puzzled, I turned up to an extreme degree, all have gone sad day" (Psalm 38:6). Maybe some well-meaning friends insist that you give the relationship another chance. Make no mistake. You who live with the consequences of that decision, not your friends. So do not give backtrack very sad you are.
You'll see that gradually disappears your pain. Meanwhile, you can do many things to overcome the situation. Here are a few ideas.
Pour over with someone you trust (Proverbs 15:22). Chat with Lord of the case (Psalm 55:22). Always have something to do (1 Corinthians 15:58). Do not isolate yourself (Proverbs 18:1). The sooner the out again with a group of people who will raise their morale. Think of positive things (Philippians 4:8).
Over time you may find someone special. Surely then, thanks to the experience gained, will be better prepared to determine if that is the person for you. And who knows, you may indeed be so.

How do I know that is true love?

for dreamers romantic love is a mysterious feeling that seizes one, an ecstasy that is experienced only once in their life. They believe that love is only heart issue, something that can not be understood but only experienced. Love overcomes all obstacles, and is eternal ...
These are the common descriptions of romantic love. And surely falling in love can be a uniquely beautiful. But what is precisely true love?

"Love at first sight?

David met Janet at a party. Immediately was captivated by her beautiful body and the effect of the hair to drop you on the eye when he laughed. Janet was fascinated with dark brown eyes and pleasant conversation with David. It seemed a case of love at first sight!
For the next three weeks David and Janet were inseparable. So Janet was one night a phone call from a young man who had been her boyfriend, and was very depressed. So David called for comfort. But David saw what a threat and, confused, responded coolly. The love that the two believed they would last forever died that night.
films, books and television programs would have you believe that love at first sight lasts forever. Admittedly usually physical attraction is what initially creates a mutual interest between two people. As a young man said: "It is not easy to 'see' the personality of anyone." But what is "love" one when only one person has known for a few hours or days? Is not the image projected? Actually, you do not know much about the thoughts, hopes, fears, plans, habits, skills and abilities of that person. Only knows the outside, not "the secret person of the heart." (1 Peter 3:4.) How long can a love like that?

Smoke and Mirrors

addition, appearances can be deceiving. The Bible says: "The charm may be false, and beauty may be futile. " The beautiful wrap a gift no one tells you what's inside. In fact, more sleek sheath could cover a useless gift. (Proverbs 31:30.)
A proverb says: "As a gold nose ring in a pig's snout, so is the woman who is beautiful, but it is moving away from common sense." (Proverbs 11:22.) The nose rings were popular motifs in biblical times. They were exquisite work, usually gold. Naturally, an ornament like that would be the first piece of jewelry that one would notice in a woman.
Appropriately, the proverb compares with a "gold nose ring in the snout of a pig," a woman of beautiful appearance that lacks "common sense". The beauty simply does not square with a foolish woman, if it is a useless ornament. In the long run, not make it more attractive than a beautiful beautifies a pig nose ring! So, what error would be 'love' of someone's appearance and ignore what the person really is inside!

"Nothing is so misleading"

But some think that the heart is infallible when they make judgments about romance. 'Listen to your heart' is what they say. 'When true love, you'll know! " Unfortunately, the facts contradict this theory. In one survey, 1,079 youths (between the ages of 18 and 24) had previously reported an average of seven romantic relationships. Most admitted that his previous romantic experiences were just infatuation, infatuation, a fleeting emotion. But those same young people "invariably said that their experience of the moment was love!" However, sometime in the future the majority considered their current relationships and considered the past: a simple infatuation.
The tragedy is that every year thousands of couples get married with the illusion that they are 'in love' only to discover soon after that they made a mistake. The infatuation "deceives men and women and has become unhappy marriages; seem sheep going to slaughter," says Ray Short in his book Sex, Love, or Infatuation (sexual attraction, love or whim).
"He who trusts in himself is stupid." (Proverbs 28:26.) All too often happens that we judge our hearts is wrong and leads us astray. In fact, the Bible says: "Nothing is so misleading [...] as the heart." (Jeremiah 17:9, The Bible Day) However, the proverb goes above say: "He who walks in wisdom is to escape." You can also avoid the pitfalls and frustrations that have befallen their peers if you learn to recognize the difference between infatuation and love that is described in the Bible ... Love never fails.

contrast between love and infatuation

Calvin, a young man of 24 years, acknowledges that: "The infatuation is blind and that's what it'd be. Not perceive reality. " A 16 year old girl named Kenya said: "When one becomes infatuated with someone believes that everything that person does is perfect. "
Infatuation is a false love. It is unrealistic and selfish. People who are in this condition tend to say 'I feel really important when I am with him. I can not sleep. I can not believe how great it is all this 'or' No one makes me feel what I feel when I'm with her. " Did you notice how much the person talks about herself and what the pleasure? A relationship based on selfishness aims to failure! But note the description that the Bible gives the true love: "Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, does not brag, does not swell, does not behave indecently, does not seeking their own interests, does not become provoked. It does not take account of the injury. " (1 Corinthians 13:4, 5.)
Since "does not seek its own interests, love based on biblical principles is not self-centered and selfish. It is true that two young men may have intense romantic feelings and are attracted to each other. But reason and a deep respect for the other person help you balance those feelings. If what you feel is true love, then you're interested in the welfare and happiness of the other person to the same extent that you care for your own good and happiness. Do not let emotions sweeping destroy your good sense.

An example of true love

The biblical story of Jacob and Rachel clearly illustrates this. They met in a well that Rachel went to water the sheep of his father. Jacob was drawn to her immediately, not only because it was "of fine figure and handsome face, but also because he loved the Lord. (Genesis 29:1-12, 17.)
After spending a month in the family home of Rachel, Jacob said he loved Rachel and wanted to marry her. Was that just a romantic infatuation? No way! During that month he saw Rachel in their natural environment and noticed how he treated his parents and others, how to make your job as a shepherdess, and how serious it took the worship of Jehovah. No doubt he saw her his "best times" and their "worst times." Therefore, the love she felt for her was not rampant, but a selfless based on reason and deep respect.
why Jacob could say that he was willing to work seven years for Rachel's father to marry her. Surely the infatuation would not have lasted so long! Only genuine love, an unselfish interest in the other person, that those years would have seemed "like a few days." Because a genuine love that he and Rachel were able to stay chaste, pure, during that period. (Genesis 29:20, 21.)

takes time!

The passage of time has no bad effect on true love. In fact, the best way to test what you feel for another person is to let some time pass. Moreover, as mentioned a girl named Sandra: "No one gives you their personality just say, 'I am. Now you know everything there is to know about me '. " No, it also takes time to get to know the person you're interested.
Time also allows examine your romantic interest in light of the Bible. Remember, love does not behave indecently, does not seek its own interests. " Does the other person interested in the success of your projects, or only yours? Do you respect your views and your feelings? Have you put pressure on you to do things that are 'indecent' to satisfy their selfish desires? Do you tend to stoop in front of others, or ensalzarte? Which ask questions like these can help you assess your feelings more objectively.

precipitate a crush or infatuation can lead to disaster. Jill, a young 20 years, said: "I just fell in love, suddenly and madness." He married after a hectic two-month love affair. But then began to surface hidden faults. Jill started to roll insecurity and egocentricity. Her husband, Rick, lost the romantic charm and became selfish. One day, after two years of marriage, Jill shouted to her husband that he was "stingy", "lazy" and "failure." In response, Rick was hit in the face. Jill came home crying ... and marriage.
There is no doubt that following the Bible's advice would have helped save their marriage. (Ephesians 5:22-33.) But how the situation would have been different if they had known better before getting married! Would not have fallen in love with an "image", but the true personality, with its good and bad qualities. They would have had more realistic expectations.

True love does not spring up overnight. And it has to be the best partner for you is a person who you think is very attractive. For example, Barbara met a young man who, as she acknowledges, at first attracted him a lot. But "as I got to know better," Barbara recalls, "everything changed. Stephen noticed the interest in other people, and to always put the interests of others. I knew that those qualities would make a good husband. This attracted me to him and began to have you love. " The result was a lasting marriage.


So how can you know true love? Your heart may indicate something, but trust your mind trained in biblical principles. Try to know more than just the "image" outside of the individual. You have to give the relationship time to reach full development. Remember, the infatuation is rising rapidly as a fever, but then fades. Over time real love is getting stronger and becomes a "perfect bond of union." (Colossians 3:14.)